If some of you might remember, I had admitted a while ago that I have this habit of observing people whenever I have nothing to do. Recently, some business required me to be at a hospital, waiting for my doctor (who is also my father's cousin) to call us on my mother's phone. He was a tad busy at the wards, so we waited for about 30 minutes. In that period of time, (no prizes here) I was observing people. (I was slightly sleepy, I hadn't yet eaten any breakfast, it was almost 10 a.m. and I had finished reading the day's paper.)
So there was this young Malay couple sitting right in front of me. Usually I don't even bother to look at ordinary-looking and -behaving people, but they stood out because (a) the guy kept somewhat playfully nudging the woman on the side of her head and (b) she didn't seem to mind it. And I thought, Interesting.
About 20 minutes into the wait, I saw a woman in her thirties was escorting a much older man (presumably her father) who walked very slowly across the lobby. I remember looking at the father-daughter team's journey across the lobby. So patient, was the woman. So determined, was the old man. And then, I noticed something else as well. The young couple in front of me was also observing - actually staring was a better word - the slow-moving team. Then the daughter asked her father to sit (I think that's what she said; she said it in Chinese, but one gets the idea) awhile and she left. But by then, my attention was fully back towards the Malay couple.
The guy was stealing glances at the old man once in a while. The woman on the other hand ... she had straightened her back, leaned forward, craned her neck for a better view, adjusted her position on her chair, and continued staring at the old man. It was so obvious she was looking at him that one wonders what about the old man had interested her so much. The old guy was just sitting there, waiting quietly, and he could NOT have behaved more normally. All the while, I was looking back and forth, trying to see for myself what was it that had caught so much of the woman's attention. But there was nothing, zero, zilch.
Apparently the guy also noticed it. He started nudging the woman again, still on the side of her head, but this time more seriously, and using a rolled-up newspaper. He must have sensed my thoughts, She is so rude! But as before, the woman took no notice, and kept on staring until the daughter came back for her father 5 minutes later, and continued their slow journey out of the lobby.
It got me thinking, am I rude to stare at these people as well? Yeah, I did not crane my neck just to get a better look, but is there really a difference between observing and staring? Is it only wrong if you are making the subject uncomfortable? Do any of us have the right to watch other people? Is it okay to look if no one knows it? Was it fair for me to think the woman was rude when I was also doing the same thing she was, albeit more discreetly?
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